©The Canadian Council of Natural Mothers
- The right to create our own language which defines ourselves and speaks
the truth about our experience as mothers who lost our children to adoption.
- The right to know if our children lost to adoption are alive and well.
- The right to define our own experience as mothers and to seek to understand that
experience, and our situation, without the judgment of those who have not experienced the loss of a
child to adoption.
- The right to reject definitions and research by members of government, social work,
medical or other professions that reflect bias, indicating failure to adequately consult
those who experienced first-hand the trauma of losing a child to adoption.
- The right to denounce the methods by which a "decision" to surrender
the right to raise our children were extracted.
- The right to declare that a piece of paper or a law made by a government agent
cannot sever the physical, emotional and spiritual bond between the mother and her child lost
- The right to obtain our children's original birth certificates, to have a copy of
all documents pertaining to ourself and our children, including but not limited to, the Consent to
Adoption, court transcripts, hospital records, and any other documentation that we may have signed
in the process of surrender.
- The right and obligation to provide full knowledge to our children of their origins,
ethnic and religious backgrounds, their original names, any pertinent medical and social details
and to update as necessary, as this information is essential to their identities.
- The right to receive a copy of the non-identifying information received by our
children or our children's adoptive parents, to correct it, and to receive accurate information
required for search.
- The right to seek reunion and personal contact with our children and to build a
lifelong relationship providing the opportunity to heal our children and ourselves.
- The right to determine, while respecting the rights of our children, how and when
reunion will take place without unwanted mediation or compulsory counselling by government agencies.
- The right and obligation to share our adoption experience with our adult children, their
families and their adoptive parents to create mutual respect and understanding in reunion.
- The right to an equal voice in the adoption constellation without being silenced to
maintain the 'status quo' or adoption illusion.
- The right to express and have acknowledged the grief, trauma, repression,
emotional numbness and other health issues caused by surrender that profoundly affect our lives.
- The right to educate the public about the secrets, silence and shame imposed on
ourselves that maintain the deception and illusions in adoption.
- The right to denounce the wrongs that were perpetrated upon us in the name
of "the best interests of the child", or in the name of 'morality', or in the name
of what is a 'normal' family.
- The right to expose the harm that was done to our children by the adoption system.
- The right to expose unethical and illegal adoption practices, to expect
accountability from the perpetrators, and to take legal action where necessary.
- The right to educate, counsel and advise single pregnant women in the creation
of real options or alternatives to adoption.
- The right to fight for full disclosure in all adoptions, past and present,
and to demand legally binding contracts for contact between the mother and her child in
present open adoptions.
Permission to copy the Bill of Rights may be given to those who request
it but will only be given if full credit to the members of the CCNM is acknowledged
in the copy. Please contact the President
of the CCNM to obtain permission.
The Canadian Council of Natural Mothers was created in February 2000 to provide a voice for women who lost their children to adoption. We lobby for open records across Canada and operate an e-mail list to discuss and heal from the trauma visited on us by adoption.
September 8, 2000