- Adoption is
the separation of a mother and her newborn or baby. For many mothers,
this separation is traumatic and begins a lifelong journey of ever-increasing
grief over the loss.
- Adoption holds
the expectation that the majority of mothers who have lost newborns
and babies to adoption should remain as ghosts, invisible, in the lives
of their sons and daughters. The majority of provinces in Canada continue
to deny natural mothers knowledge of, contact with, and accountability
for what has become of their newborns and babies lost to adoption.
- Adoption gives
permission to define the experience of adoption loss for natural mothers
to those who control the adoption industry, the adoption process, and
who benefit from adoption practices.
- Adoption prevents
transparency and accountability for those who benefit from adoption
until and unless natural mothers and persons who are adopted can meet
again to consider and compare what has happened in their lives.
of the lack of protection in adoption practice, public policy and law
for mothers who have lost children to adoption is growing. As natural
mothers connect with each other nationally and internationally, their
anguish is expressed in unison against the lack of protection for the
unsupported mother and her baby.
of the lack of heritage and connection of persons adopted is growing.
Persons adopted are reclaiming their right to know their origins and
their families. In this, they are supported by their natural mothers
that the language of adoption negatively labels natural mothers and
is used to separate them from their babies into adulthood and deny their
motherhood is growing. Labels such as, "fallen" woman, "unwed"
mother, "illegitimate" mother, and "birth" mother
were created to diminish and deny.
of past practices that denied many mothers a viable choice other than
adoption when they required temporary help for the temporary circumstances
of their pregnancy is growing.
that change in adoption practices depends on ethical treatment and the
importance of providing support and respect for the best interests of
both the mother and her child is needed.
The Canadian Council
of Natural Mothers
The Canadian Council of Natural Mothers. November 2002, written by Sandra
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