Canadian Council of Natural Mothers' Library
Carol Schaefer gave birth to
a son in 1965, surrendered him for adoption, and searched for and found
him 19 years later.
I love this book for its detailed insights. After the relinquishment, we follow Ms Schaefer through the years of dealing with the grief and waiting for the day when her son would turn 18 so that she could officially launch the search for him. We follow her through the frustrations of the search and rejoice with her as she finds her son and he welcomes her. We also get uncommon insight into how the adoptive parents dealt with her sudden manifestation. In a nutshell, rather well, but as a natural mom I kept being bothered by their proprietary attitude towards the young man. I found myself mentally in Carol Schaefer's shoes, feeling as she felt that she was at the mercy of the adoptive parents' attitude, feeling that she was an intruder and had no intrinsic right to be looking for her child. This is such a common, and unfortunate, attitude but it irks me to no end. We have EVERY right to search for and find our children and to be an acknowledged and respected part of their daily lives.
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