The purpose of the CCNM email
forum is support for mothers who have lost children to adoption. The language
and discussions on the forum should contribute to this purpose.
The CCNM email forum provides
discussions, emotional support, support in healing, validation, advocacy,
activism and adoption reform in relation to adoption loss and the concerns
pertinent to the loss of children to adoption.
The CCNM email forum is open
to people separated by adoption and foster care. [see who may join --
will click to membership]
Rules and Conditions:
The executive reserves the
right to decide whether a rule has been contravened, in all cases. The
moderator and/or the executive reserve the right to determine if specific
discussions are off-topic; what constitutes flaming and arguing beyond
the parameters of the forum rules; and to remove a member from the forum
while determining reasonable action or mediating a dispute.
- Anyone who advocates for
future adoptions is not permitted to join or remain a member of the
CCNM, regardless of her or his status in adoption.
- Pro-adoption discussions
are not permitted. This does not mean conversations regarding the relative
merits or disadvantages of adoption cannot be discussed. It means that
if you are mostly interested in promoting the ideal of adoption, this
is not the place for you.
- Please do not stray from
topics pertinent to natural mothers.
- Topics relating to non-adoption
issues, such as political statements, advertising of any kind (except
signatures), virus warnings, jokes and inspirational statements, unless
they are adoption related, are STRONGLY discouraged and must be vetted
by the CCNM moderator or executive. You may not send items to the list
without prior permission.
- Flaming of other members
such as insulting remarks, name calling, swearing, etc. are not acceptable.
Language which blames mothers for adoption, expresses anger against
mothers, or argues with mothers over our interpretation of our experiences
is considered flaming.
- Please keep arguments and
the discussion of arguments private. Failure to do so will mean removal.
Feel free to vent about systems and individuals that have contributed
to the pain we all feel as a consequence of the adoption system, past
- It is understood that the
use of generalizations in venting and relating our experiences that
have caused us pain and/or frustration, in this forum pertain only to
those particular people and experiences and do not include "all"
members of a group, organization, profession, etc., past and present.
Please do not personalize such discussions unless you are specifically
- Please be careful in venting
and relating experiences not to name a particular individual or organization
in a way that would put you at risk of slander/defaming of another.
- We require all postings
to the forum between members to be confidential.
- Posts must be addressed
to the CCNM forum only. Multiple addresses are a form of cross-posting
with the potential of contravening the confidentiality of the CCNM forum.
- Please use a personal email
address to access the forum. Company addresses are not accepted. In
many companies email from an employee is the property of the company,
and can be read by anyone in the Information Technology Department of
that company as well as by company officials. This also protects the
member from accusations of using company time or resources on personal
matters. Free email addresses from sources such as hotmail, yahoo, or
others are readily available.
- Do NOT copy email from the
CCNM forum and send it to non-members. The executive will remove those
who contravene this rule. CCNM members post to the forum assuming their
words will remain confidential among members of the list. Use of words
from or entire emails posted on the CCNM forum cannot be posted to an
outside source or shared with others without permission for such use
from the originating member. Permission MUST be obtained first.
- Posting email from outside
our forum to the CCNM forum is strongly discouraged. Often it is repeat
information to members or may seem to make the CCNM forum an arm of
another organization. The CCNM prefers to be independent of other organizations.
If you wish to post an email from another list to the CCNM forum, or
from a former member, and if this is a rare event, please ask the moderator
or a member of the executive for permission to post it.
- Do not send attachments
to the forum. Viruses are spread by email attachments. Only the
moderator or a member of the executive may send email attachments. You
should cut and paste information from other sources into your email
messages instead of attaching them. If you absolutely require that an
attachment be sent to the forum, please send it first to the moderator.
Attachments include documents, pictures and email messages from other
sources. We strongly suggest members immediately delete any messages
which contain attachments from members who are not the moderator, or
one of the executive.
Contravening email rules
and conditions may lead to removal from the CCNM email forum. Please
be aware there can be no guarantee of confidentiality on any email
forum. Within the boundaries of the forum rules, please feel free to explore
topics pertaining to people separated by adoption. Please understand our
intent behind these rules and use it to help free ourselves from the consequences
of adoption. Thank you for your cooperation.
the philosophy of family preservation
and our practices
support this philosophy.
Your email address
and name or user name used to register on the CCNM email forum
will be available to all CCNM email forum members.
If you understand
and agree to the above terms and conditions, please join us.
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*Disclaimer: Although the
Canadian Council of Natural Mothers email forum is moderated, it is done
so after each email has been posted to the CCNM email forum and is visible
to all members. Emails are posted automatically between all members and
are not reviewed by the moderator before distribution and are not subject
to edits, changes or deletion. In joining the CCNM email forum, it is
therefore acknowledged that all posts to the email forum are the express
thoughts, views, perspectives, experiences and opinions of the author
and not those of the Canadian Council of Natural Mothers, administrators,
executive, moderators or webmaster (except for their own email posts)
and, therefore, they will not be held liable for the content of email
posts to the members' CCNM email forum.